Growing up, I believed emulating someone who “made it” would give me a happy and successful life. I cannot express enough how much following someone else’s roadmap made me feel like a failure. My true self, my skills and values disappeared. I was not being authentic.
Here are some things I learned about myself after getting back to basics, becoming authentic and walking my own path:
I like variety a lot. If I get bored, I’m no longer interested. If I learn everything there is to know about a subject, I shelve it until a new facet piques my interest. I can’t be happy focusing on one subject or skill. I’m a high energy multitasker. Book work does not suit me unless it translates into action. Self help and how to dominate my bookshelves.
I’m not impulsive when it comes to spending my time and money. I’m hardwired to be cautious, contemplative and I do a lot of sound research before making time and money decisions.
My morals and ethics do not work on a sliding scale. In my world, right and wrong are black and white. No gray here.
I’m not a flashy person. I don’t buy things to impress others nor base my worth on things. All things fall out of fashion.
I like manual labor a lot. I like to toss and stack wood, garden, landscape, and do home improvement projects. I like the feeling of accomplishment after completing a project. I like feeling useful.
I like buying used clothes a lot. They are cheaper, preshrunk and if I get lucky, I can buy a new Season’s wardrobe for under $30. Who can haggle with jeans for $3? No one I know.
I thrive with a small group of great friends rather than lots of acquaintances. And my friends have to be honest, genuine, and engaged in order for the friendships to thrive.
I love hanging out with kids. I love teaching them new skills and I always learn something new in a gaggle of kids. Kids rock!
I’m good at finances. I like good quality at a reasonable price and I’m not afraid to negotiate. I’m also more apt to ask repair techs to teach me how to perform maintenance than rehire them for the same issue.
I’m a really great judge of character. I’ve gotten way better at sniffing out deception over the years. And, I don’t tolerate it.
I am not competitive. I don’t compete with anyone but me. I set my goals, timelines and acceptable performance guidelines.
I’m much happier, feel fulfilled and my self worth and confidence are at an all time high. I love life when I am me. And there is no one else I would rather be.
Have you been through a similar experience? Let me know how being your true self has enriched your life!